Ronna Lichtenberg是《女人，天生就能赢》一书的作者，也是Clear Peak Communications管理咨询公司的总裁。她认为自我宣传对于男性和女性来说都非常重要。“每一个人都需要让其他人知道他们随时准备迎接新的挑 战，并且为了把事情做好，自己应该得到必要的支持，”她说。“这样的支持可以是更高的薪水，也可以是一个更重要的职位，从而能够在公司里得到一个合适的定 位。”
因为不同的女性有着不同的特点，而女性宣传自己的对象又各不相同，并没有一种放之四海而皆准的方法。Lichtenberg解释说，除了要了解自己的长 处以及如何突出它们的重要性以外，“对于所有的女性来说，关键是要花时间好好思考一下对方的需求。这样你就能够以一种他们能够接受的方式表达你的要求和希 望。”
“多花一些时间来考虑清楚你到底希望得到什么——我称其为‘思辨’，”Lichtenberg建议。“这样你才能够真正理 解你在市场当中的价值。对于自己能够提供哪些东西，竞争形势以及如何能够提高自身价值了解得越清楚，在你临时需要对某人推销自己的时候，也就可以越发从容 不迫。
Don’t Hesitate to Self-Promote
Your hard work, dedication to your job and long hours speak for themselves. Come promotion time, your boss will see you’re the best candidate for a leadership position, right?
Many women think this, and then watch as those big promotions go to those more willing to toot their own horn at work — often men.
Chicago-based global employee search and consulting firm ISR talked to 2,900 employees in five different industries for an August 2004 survey and found that female executives are driven by working relationships and what’s best for the company, while men are driven by what’s at stake for them personally and are better able to strategize about themselves.
Self-promotion is important for both sexes, according to Ronna Lichtenberg, author of Pitch Like a Girl: How a Woman Can Be Herself and Still Succeed and president of management-consulting firm Clear Peak Communications. “Everyone needs to let other people at work know they are someone who is ready to tackle new challenges and deserves the support they need to get things done,” she says. “That support can range from a higher salary to a more important job to just being positioned properly.”
What Self-Promotion Is — And Isn’t
According to Lichtenberg, self-promotion is “taking the lead to let other people know about good things you have done, can do and are doing? There is a way to do it that is thoughtful of and sensitive to other people’s feelings, which like many other people, I call pitching, and there is a way to do it that feels self-centered and inappropriate.”
This distinction is important to make, because many women feel that the only way to promote themselves is to be obnoxious and strain relationships, says Lichtenberg. “Also, they are worried that people won’t like them if they seem like they are self-promoting too aggressively, and research suggests that is true — that in fact, other women can be particularly harsh critics,” she adds.
Fear of being judged can lead to insecurity, which makes it hard to self-promote. But faking confidence is almost as good as feeling it. “No one else knows your heart is pounding and your knees are a little wobbly,” says Lichtenberg. “After forcing yourself to do it a few times, you’ll find it gets easier.”
Use Your Strengths
So how do you self-promote while remaining true to yourself?
First, remember that not all women are the same. “Some women have what I would call a lue’ style, which means she focuses on tasks and doesn’t look for a lot of person-to-person connection at work,” Lichtenberg explains. “A blue woman wants to get to the point, writes emails without greetings or salutations and believes in win/lose.
“A ink’ woman likes to know the person she is doing business with as a person, believes that having a bonding moment first can make work done on tasks go faster and more effectively and believes in win/win,” she adds.
Because of the differences among women and the various people they’re pitching, there isn’t a single right way to do it for everyone, other than learning about your individual strengths and how to leverage them, Lichtenberg explains. “The key, though, for pink, blue and striped styles is to spend a lot of time thinking about the other person’s needs so you can explain your needs and desires in a way that makes it possible for them to hear it,” she says.
“Spend some real time on what I call isioning’ — being clear about what you really want,” Lichtenberg advises. “From there, you can move to really understanding the value of what you are offering in the marketplace. The more homework you do about what Me Inc. offers, how it stacks up to the competition and how you can improve the value of your offering, the better off you will be when you have to quickly pitch yourself to someone else.”
The women best at self-promotion are those who are interested in others and show it by starting conversations. “They know that sharing something about themselves is a way to connect to other people and is, if done correctly, doing someone a favor rather than a disservice,” she explains.